What to do to deserve it. How to make yourself respected? Ignoring one's own interests
A person wants universal recognition more than money and love. This has long been a proven fact. But sometimes you have to step over your moral principles in order to achieve your cherished goal. How to force people to respect yourself and at the same time not catch the judgmental glances of those who are aware of all the ins and outs? About this in today's article.
1. Are you doing your job?
Don't waste your time worrying about what people think of you. Better take care of something that directly relates to your career advancement: finally get to work, and do your job well. Not only will this save you from mental anguish, it will help you spend your time productively.
2. Never ignore deadlines.
By showing up to meetings on time and completing your projects on time, you will earn a reputation for reliability.
3. Dress code.
They meet you by their clothes. If you don’t want any difficulties at the very beginning, then think through your wardrobe. An employee is the face of the company. You need to decorate it properly. Some companies do not have specific criteria for work clothes, so try not to be too familiar with suits, but also not to spoil the public with miniskirts. Look at your colleagues.
4. Treat everyone with respect.
To be respected, learn to respect yourself. People will be drawn to someone who can communicate with respect and treat the janitor with respect.
5. Make friends with the right people.
Try to associate with people who are similar to who you want to be. We are not talking about bosses, but about those who have earned a good reputation and whom everyone listens to. Of course, this person could be your boss, but not always.
6. Become a mediator.
Know someone at another company who can help your colleague? So share your friend's contacts. This will prove that you are not only a sociable person with impressive connections, but also ready to help.
7. Invite people.
Have you figured out how to brighten up your evening? Don't become isolated. Invite one of your colleagues who would be interested. This will help build bridges and get to know the person better.
8. Use the word “I” less.
Psychologists say that a person uses a personal pronoun when communicating with people when he considers himself superior to them. To match them, simply omit this word. Without knowing why, they will begin to treat you with more respect.
9. Ask for help.
Yes, asking for help will help you gain respect. It will show you with the best side: Firstly, because you are smart enough not to waste your time figuring things out on your own, and because you know it is more productive to ask someone for help. Secondly, whoever you asked guesses that you consider him qualified specialist and respect his opinion.
10. Help your comrades.
Have some free time? Ask your boss or colleagues if they need your help. Go to the buffet, ask “what to bring?” This way you will free them from unnecessary work, but will not punish yourself.
11. Hear and listen.
Nothing irritates people more than the moment when they are animatedly telling you something, and you are distracted by something else. When you listen to your interlocutor, really listen. Ask clarifying questions, nod to prove your understanding, take a comfortable position that will help your interlocutor understand that he is telling you things that are important to you.
12. Ask about business.
With today's frantic pace of life, many people simply forget to ask about business. The simple cliché “How are you?” lifts people's spirits in an amazing way.
13. Remember the little things.
Names of children, spouses, favorite brands of wine, hobbies, plans for the future. This will make it clear that you care about the person. Bad memory? Repeat all the little things after a conversation with your friend, so there is a greater chance that they will stick in your memory. Remember only half? Don't be afraid to ask again what you forgot.
14. Be ashamed of your mistakes.
I all know that no one is perfect. This is far from a secret. If someone pretends to be a robot who never makes mistakes, then a lot of suspicion falls on him. Mistakes in themselves are not the end of the world, they just lead to negative consequences, and admitting your mistake is a feat.
15. ...but explain what you will do to correct them.
Confessing and then doing nothing is not the best policy for achieving universal recognition. Before you confess, make sure you have at least one plan in place. Better yet, come up with a few. Say them all, and then ask an authority figure to choose the most correct one if you are not sure what to do.
16. Look for reviews.
Regularly ask people what you are bad at and work on your shortcomings. They will notice that you are looking for imperfections in yourself and are ready to eliminate them. Try to arrange monthly meetings with your boss and colleagues, where they can express absolutely all the reasoned truth about you.
17. Give feedback.
From time to time you should give out advice. But you need to be careful, because you risk becoming an office critic. So, along with advice, tell people about their successes.
18. Never say: “That’s not my job!”
The trash can is overflowing and you go out for a smoke? Throw out trash along the way. A comrade has gathered in a conference room, and his hands are busy with drawings? Help him carry his bag. This is not your responsibility, but people will do the same for you.
19. Anticipate needs.
“I already did it!” - your boss's favorite soul balm. This way, you will make it clear to your superiors that there is someone else who cares about the fate of the company. In the future, you will become the one whose advice your boss will listen to.
20. And again little things.
Grab coffee for your partner or flowers for your older colleague who got a promotion today, or let the pizza delivery surprise all members of your team, which you will pay for from the bonus for the completed project. Everyone has a hard day ahead, and small signs of attention will do wonders.
21. Say “no” more often.
Rejection can help gain respect. Yes, yes, this is not a typo. When people think that you cannot refuse, they will start wiping their feet on you. Having your own opinion, and defending it with the confidence of a righteous person, you will earn unprecedented respect. You believe in your beliefs, are determined only for success and are ready to do anything for the sake of a goal - this should be your prayer in the morning.
22. Have your own opinion.
True leaders don't agree with everything. They have their own opinion on everything. But you need to take care of your own opinion in advance: form it, justify it, prove it and, just in case, refute it yourself. Your opinion may coincide with someone else's, but it should always be your own.
23. Respect other people's opinions.
Don't dig a grave for others. When proving your opinion, take into account someone else’s. Learn to compromise. You will always have to weigh decisions to make sure everyone is comfortable. This is the only way for each team member to work with full dedication.
24. Speak loudly.
Nothing indicates insecurity more clearly than muttering. Always speak so that everyone can hear you from anywhere in the room. Speak clearly without swallowing your endings. Avoid vague words: “I think we can do it...” or “I think it will work...”.
25. Avoid gossip.
People are always discussing strong people. Rise above this, don't waste time on empty chatter. Talk to your colleagues as individuals, rather than just asking about their business. Be willing to help them if they are willing to open up to you.
26. Don't waste other people's time.
There is no greater way to show respect for a person than to show how much you value their time. Don't ask questions that you can answer yourself. Don't make appointments you don't need.
27. Organize useful meetings.
People are always thinking about what they could be doing instead of what they are doing in at the moment. This is how human nature works. So make sure you all enjoy your time together and take care worthwhile cause for a meeting.
28. Work independently.
Now I'm talking about the moment when you are faced with a responsible task, and you don't know what to do or what to do next. Before going to your superiors to resolve the issue, work through each option yourself. It is better to ask your bosses for approval than to appear on the carpet with the question: “What should I do?”
29. Don’t say: “I don’t know!”
Never respond this way to someone asking for help. Better refer him to someone who knows or try to solve the problem together. You may have been his last hope.
30. Become a leading speaker.
Firstly, good speech gives you an advantage in meetings - everyone will think that you are an unsurpassed leader (in other words, you will receive a certain amount of credibility). Secondly, you will be comfortable when people perceive you as a confident person. Moreover, such practice will bear fruit in daily communication.
31. Work on empathy and authority at the same time.
You need to find that balance when people appreciate the warmth in communicating with you, but also recognize your authority. In this situation, they know who to trust, but they will also listen. You won't be a tyrant for them, but you won't be that friend with whom you can only talk about girls and have a drink at the bar.
32. Separate personal and work time.
People will value your time more if they know you don't work after 6 because you have dinner with your family, or don't check email on the weekends because your vacation home doesn't have internet.
33. Don't leave at 17:00.
Follow through. Especially when the job really needs to be completed today. But don't let your boss think you're willing to sleep at work.
34. Be considerate of your colleagues.
Chat with your colleagues, find out about their preferences. Maybe some people work better in silence, others like it when all the information is presented in written form rather than in lengthy voice messages. Help them improve their performance.
35. Be a helper.
When something goes wrong with your partner, instead of being angry, show initiative. Your work together will be more effective if you help him. He will probably appreciate it.
36. Be a mentor.
Take junior employees under your wing, even if they don't ask for it. Consult them on all issues: from simple unspoken rules to issues of career advancement. Higher-ranking employees will probably notice this.
37. Help newbies.
As soon as a newcomer comes to your company, immediately greet him and let him know that you are ready to help. He will immediately note in you the image of a responsive leader.
38. Raise champions.
Are you proud of your students/subordinates? Share your employees' goals and do everything in your power to help them achieve their goals. Help develop the necessary skills, organize courses and seminars for your employees.
39. Go up.
Don't wait for your manager to tell you. Ask him yourself. Initiative is an important trait for a leader. When your boss realizes that he is grooming a successor, everyone in your office will understand it.
40. Don't complain.
Are you tired, stuck in one place, feeling like a broken record, sick, staying overtime every day, etc.? Never whine. At least in the workplace. Let everyone think that you have a positive attitude towards work, that you love what you do.
41. Watch the world.
Keep track of what's happening in your industry around the world. Read relevant articles, share them with colleagues and management. Give them the opportunity to also follow the latest developments in the world of your business.
42. Ask yourself.
What makes great leaders different is that they can ask themselves, are they really on the right track?
Marcel Garipov based on website material
When we arrive at new team, then we really want to be respected at work. But how to behave correctly so that those with whom we have to see every day are respected. How to behave at work in order to win favor with the team? In fact, behavior at work differs little from how we behaved at school and university. We grow up, but the basic rules of behavior that cause respect or disrespect still remain the same. Therefore, when thinking about how to behave at work so that you are respected, remember your mistakes and try not to repeat them.
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And yet, how to behave at work so that you are respected? Let's develop some simple rules, so that you can use them when you come to your workplace. At work, as at school, you need to earn respect for yourself, but at the same time, not stand out from the team so much that it angers and annoys other people.
Most of all, people don’t like it when someone stands out too much with intelligence and erudition. In this case, it seems to them that the person is trying to seem much better than others, to curry favor with the boss, humiliating them in his eyes. Therefore, even if you know a lot, you don’t need to constantly stick your mind out. Nobody is saying that he shouldn't be used. When completing some projects and tasks, you can safely use your knowledge to the fullest. This way, you will be respected by your managers for your ability to complete complex tasks. But, in this case, how can we make sure that employees are also respected for these qualities, and not hated and envied? The answer is simple - always try to help in any way you can. There is no need to constantly talk about how your boss praised you again or how you again got a raise because you are very smart. Better, try to help those who find it difficult to do something. Of course, you should never do this to the detriment of or take on someone else’s work. But, if you are asked to give advice or you yourself see that a person needs it, never refuse him.
Help with everything you can. Such people are loved and respected. The employees understand that although he is in good standing with the director, he always tries to make sure that others achieve something as well. They will admire your intelligence, and not quietly envy what day it is, cursing the unsolvable problem they are poring over from dawn to dusk.
But, if you are still not respected at work, think about why everything happens this way. Disrespect can arise for both objective and biased reasons. And you need to behave depending on the situation and the factors that influence it. For example, it happens that a person at work is not respected for his honesty. In some companies, employees constantly gossip, tease each other, and if a person appears who doesn’t like it, they try to drag him to their side or leave him to rot. Of course, this behavior is more typical of teenagers and schoolchildren, but, unfortunately, many people never grow up. They continue to behave and act as if they were still in childhood. In such a team, in fact, respect can only be earned if you adapt to it and behave the same way. If this contradicts your principles, then it will be very difficult to survive in such a team. Therefore, you either need to try to find among them those who still share your point of view, or simply change your place of work. Otherwise, you will constantly feel like an outcast, be afraid of some kind of pitfall, and, in the end, you will develop problems with psychological and physical health. Therefore, you should always remember that it is not necessary to achieve respect from every team. There are those people whose respect will be equal to the contempt of others. Therefore, it is worth correctly determining how right they are in their views and whether it is worth sacrificing something for the sake of their favor.
But it may also be that you are not respected at work for quite reasonable reasons. Of course, they can be very diverse. For example, it happens that a person is negligent in his duties and lets the team down. Because of this, they constantly reproach him and get angry. If you know that you really, often make mistakes and try not to stress too much, then their anger is absolutely righteous. And in order to gain their respect, you simply need to learn how to do your job efficiently. Of course, each of us wants to do nothing and, at the same time, receive good salary. Believe me, your responsible colleagues have such thoughts no less often than you do. It’s just that they understand that this doesn’t happen in this life, and therefore they try to do everything to achieve something. And you, in turn, hinder them in this by not fulfilling your direct responsibilities. Therefore, try to start taking a responsible attitude towards everything you do, and then the attitude towards you will definitely change.
Also, in teams, people who like to gossip, discuss others and tell their boss about someone’s mistakes are very disliked and disrespected. You should never do this, otherwise there is a big risk of turning the team against you. Of course, some women chat about everything with absolutely no malicious intent, but the consequences can be very bad. Therefore, if you hear or find out about something, try to keep it to yourself and not discuss it with the whole team.
In a normal, healthy team, they always respect those who can do their work responsibly, help others when necessary, treat people with respect and not curry favor with the boss in any way. Also, to earn respect at work, you need to be kind and enough an open person. Let people see that you do not wish harm to anyone, that you are pleased to cooperate and communicate with those around you. Try to complain less about life, be simpler and don’t try to prove to everyone that you are better. Then the team will respect you for your hard work, understanding and optimism.
A third of the day, and some even more, is spent at work. For many, working in an enterprise, organization, or firm is a source of income, their means of livelihood. A person’s well-being, attitude in society, and mood depend on work.
Therefore, everyone wants people to appreciate, love and respect him at work, and his boss not to find fault with him too much. There are special conspiracies so that the attitude of the team towards you is good, and your superiors love and appreciate you.
And the boss won’t find fault
Many suffer from bad attitude boss There is a ritual that will help establish normal relations with your superiors.
At home, take a spoonful of sugar and at midnight read the spell over it:
“Bake, dry on my sugar Like a fly sticks to sweet syrup: With your heart, skeleton, brain, all organs, So you, servant of God (...), turn & To me, Hold advice, in the absence of pressing. Appreciate as they value the most valuable and expensive. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit."
Then you need to come to work earlier than others and scatter the charmed sugar in front of your manager’s office. It is clear that this must be done so that people do not see you.
Otherwise, distrust, ridicule, and nagging will be even worse, and not only from your superiors, but also from your work colleagues who may begin to shun you, mock you, and find fault even more. Any magical actions do not like fuss and are performed quietly and secretly.
Conspiracy to avoid being laid off
Very often a situation arises at work that requires staff reductions. It seems that the boss appreciates it, and for many years you have worked in your place and have a good attitude towards the work, but when layoffs come, you can lose your place.
When a company is downsizing, you can say the following words:
"My right hand, my right foot, my just cause. Was, is and will be. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen".
These words should be read when approaching the door of the person who resolves issues with hiring and dismissal. If in your organization such a decision depends on several people, then you should do this in front of the doors of all these people.
There's another one strong ritual to keep you at work. But before performing it, think about whether you can fulfill all the conditions that this ritual imposes on you. To do this, you will need to go into the forest, collect or collect 36 oak leaves on the ground.
Ritual from reduction
They need to be stacked like a deck of cards. Then look for a clearing where there is a stump. Draw a circle around this stump with a stick and sit down near the stump, imagining that there is an ordinary table in front of you. Then you should call the devil to play cards with you. You can invite him with the following words:
“Little devil, little brother, go play cards.”
Then you begin to distribute these leaves between two and say:
“Damn, damn, I’ll lose to you in oaks, And you do for me (ask for what you want to get from him...).”
After this, you need to very finely tear up those pieces of paper that you handed over not to yourself, but to your playing partner. You take your own leaves with you and carry them to the building where you work and scatter them in front of the front door.
But the most important thing is that after this, for the rest of your life you should never even touch the cards, let alone play them. See if you can fulfill this condition! This ban must be taken very seriously.
A conspiracy to make people love and respect
To love and respect the people around you, a good attitude towards them, honesty and decency is often not enough, because people can envy, gossip, and slander. In such situations, old people advise reading the following plot:
Respect for colleagues
“In the morning I will wake up at dawn, I will cross myself three times at the icon, I will bow down to Mother Earth itself. I leave the house - there is light all around, true beauty comes from me. People are not superior to me, I am not inferior to people. I will stand taller than everyone else. Let old men, young men, young girls, gloomy widowers and widowers appreciate me. To be loved and respected, to be received with honor and joy, to stand up in honor, to give my word everywhere in everything. How people wait for the red spring, How everyone takes care of their property, So that they would wait for me and protect me, They would value me, They would be friends with me, They would look at me, look at me, They wouldn’t take their eyes off the slave (...), Everyone would love and respect me. I come to you, people, with Christ's Easter, And you people come to me, every single one, with affection. My head has ore in its veins. Not oak, but iron, flint and fire. Amen".
As you can see, these words are aimed at all the people who surround you in life. You do not wish harm to anyone with these words, but are only trying to attract respect and veneration. You don’t want to do anything bad to anyone, and therefore such a conspiracy does not entail, as they usually say in such cases, a “rollback”, because the message to the Universe is for good.
Before reading these words, it is advisable to do what they say at the very beginning, that is, pray sincerely in front of the icons, ask God in your own words for what you want: goodwill towards yourself, so that you are loved and respected in the team. And then immediately after the prayer read these words.
It is clear that after reading such conspiracy words, you yourself should not slander, create scandals, get angry, but try to carry out all instructions in good faith. With such good behavior you will only strengthen the words of the conspiracy, because in this world everything is interconnected.
If you give your all, try, but feel that your boss and colleagues underestimate you, and sometimes just don’t take you seriously, then you can perform a simple ritual that is very effective and will help improve relationships with those who work with you in the same team. To carry out this ritual, you need to prepare in advance:
- spring water;
- a spoonful of honey;
- cup.
On Sunday, at night, you should go to the window and open it. Place a glass on the windowsill, pour water into it and put a spoon with honey in it, stir thoroughly until the honey is completely dissolved. You need to take a glass of water in your hands and read the following words above it:
“Just as water became sweet from honey, just as water became tasty and loved by all people, so they will love and respect me at work, and they will not be able to take a step in business without me. As it is said, it will come true. Amen. Amen. Amen".
The glass should be left on the window until the morning. In the morning, before leaving home for work, take some of this sweet water and rinse your face. This magical “washing” should be done every day before work and continue until then.
Until all the water is gone. Over time, you will notice that the attitude towards you will change. Your co-workers will treat you kindly and respectfully, and your boss will appreciate your contribution to the common cause and professionalism.
Often the situation develops in such a way that the boss not only does not respect you as a specialist, but finds fault with you on every occasion, tries to humiliate you, and insults you. What can I say, but there are plenty of tyrants among senior officials! And if you are unable to establish relationships using the usual methods and methods, then you can resort to such a ritual.
Conspiracy to respect your boss
Only for this you will have to learn the plot by heart. Seize the moment when you are behind your boss's back. A very suitable situation occurs when the boss walks ahead of you along the corridor. You quietly whisper a conspiracy behind his back:
“Just as a toothless wolf will no longer bite, and a hornless bull will not butt, so you, servant of God (name of the boss), will never find fault with me and my affairs again. So be it. Amen".
Do it discreetly so that people don’t think anything bad about you or notice anything. This action, so simple in its essence, can change the situation for the better.
There is another fairly simple ritual that will help you keep a job in your place, as well as find a new one if you are in search and don’t have one yet. permanent place work. It should be carried out on a Friday evening after the sun goes below the horizon. You should take a spoonful of honey and read over it:
“Like a bee, he will always find his hive and bring honey into it. So the servant of God (name) will find a job to his liking, he will find a sweet place, like this very honey. So be it. Amen".
After this, you need to eat this honey without drinking anything. In the morning, when you go to an interview or to your job, don’t talk to anyone until you find yourself within the walls of the office where the preliminary conversation is taking place or at your workplace.
No matter what familiar people you meet along the way, you will have to remain silent and not say hello. In case of job search, this ritual must be carried out until a place is found.
As you can see, these conspiracies are aimed only at improving the situation at the company or in the institution where you work, at softening the morale of your superiors, and at creating a prosperous environment. By performing such rituals, you do not bring trouble to anyone, you do not wish harm to anyone, and therefore you will not receive anything “as a gift” from the Cosmos.
After all, thoughts are material and wishes of evil, curses especially return not even to those who commit this or that magical effect, and to his children and grandchildren. And then we throw up our hands and say: “Why am I so unlucky, why do misfortunes befall me?” It’s better not to wish harm on anyone in particular, then it won’t come back to you either. It’s not for nothing that they say that as it comes around, so will it respond.
How often it happens that people treat each other with disrespect, “get on their heads,” insult and even humiliate! In every large team there is always someone who is not respected, whose opinion they are not interested in, and who is used in their own interests. In more younger age Such children become outcasts, they are openly bullied, in their youth they are the ones who are constantly sent to the store for the next can of beer, and in adulthood such a person is simply ignored.
If this person is you, it's time to change the situation! How can you make yourself respected? There are many options that most people resort to. And declare yourself, demonstrate your strengths, trying to evoke respect from those around him. And learn to stand up for yourself, responding with caustic remarks to their offensive phrases. And don't pay attention. But this doesn't work! Why? Because several rules come into force:
- People treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated.
- People treat us the way we treat ourselves.
These two rules work in unison, so it is useless to try to work only on the first. And all the options that were listed above relate precisely to attempts to not allow people to treat us this way.
Remember, if you consider yourself unworthy, others will consider you unworthy.
If you consider yourself ugly, others will see all sorts of flaws in you and will be blind to your strengths.
If you think and speak badly about yourself, constantly criticize yourself and thereby humiliate yourself in your own eyes, then people will think badly of you, discuss, condemn and respond unflatteringly.
If you hurt yourself out of guilt or feelings of inferiority, then others will hurt you, giving you even more opportunities to torment yourself.
If you don't accept yourself for who you are, no one will accept you, people will avoid communicating with you.
If you do not love, value and respect yourself, others will not be able to love, value and respect you.
Everything you want to receive from the outer world must first be taken from the inner world. And only when you raise your bar in your own eyes, begin to take care of your body and soul, then you will notice changes in your relationships with people. This applies to peers, older people, your gender and the opposite. The answer to the question: “How to make people respect you?” - Start respecting yourself.
One of my friends suffered from a relationship with her beloved guy. He was a drug addict and lived in her apartment with her money. And he constantly stole something without admitting it. But she knew it was him, since she had seen with her own eyes more than once how he took gold out of the apartment. And she let him do it. “I love him, only I can help him,” she cried, “He will be lost without me.” Would a girl who respected herself endure such humiliation? No. Would a girl who values herself even get involved with a drug addict? No. And the phrase “love is evil and you will love a goat” does not work here. Only a girl with low self-esteem can love a “goat”.
Do you want to argue? Fine. Imagine yourself walking past trash can, where the homeless man is rummaging. This homeless man is dirty, smelly, even though he is young. Can you fall in love with him? No. Why? Because it wouldn’t even occur to you to look at him, to start a dialogue with him. You simply will not give life the opportunity of this meeting. This is beneath your dignity, this is not your level. Right? The same rule applies in other cases. When a girl respects herself, she will not look at someone who can insult her.
If we are not talking about the relationship between a man and a woman, but about a team where, say, you are not respected, then the same rule applies here. Fear is born in your soul, people feel it and you become a “scapegoat” for them. A person who values and respects himself does not have fear. Fear is just a consequence of dislike and disrespect for oneself. But fear is something that is felt on a non-verbal level.
Why are there children who become outcasts in any group? Because they have fear. And others feel it. Like dogs. You know that you shouldn’t be afraid of a dog, otherwise it might attack? Even if outwardly you won’t show her that you’re afraid. She just senses your fear. It's the same with children. They rush at someone who is afraid and peck and peck. And here it’s not a matter of fear, but of fear.
Fear is born from self-doubt, from low self-esteem. Therefore, you need to respect yourself and then other people will treat you completely differently.
Every girl needs male respect. If a guy doesn’t respect you, it means he won’t be able to love you, even less so. Therefore, more and more often we appeal to our reason: how to make a guy respect you? If you are interested in this question, then there have been cases where young people did not show respect. What can you do to make your beloved young man, his friends and acquaintances respect him? There is no single answer or rule to this question, but still every girl can use some tips.
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So, how to make guys respect you - let's think about this question together. To do this, you need to understand what exactly causes disrespect, what is happening and why you are not considered equal. Every guy sees a woman as either an object of attention, or a friend, or a combination of both. In order for your beloved guy to respect you, it is best to approach the latter option. In this case, the young man sees in you not only attractiveness, but also intelligence, erudition and many other qualities that he values in guys. What can you do to make him realize that you are not just a shell, but a woman with whom you can talk about everything.
In fact, making a guy appreciate you not only as a beautiful cover is not that difficult. The main thing is that you know that you really are erudite enough for him. Many women make the mistake of believing that a guy will adore her only for beautiful eyes. Of course, this will happen, but for a relatively short time. In order to make a relationship long-term, you need to make an effort, remaining interesting not only externally, but also internally.
So, what actions and decisions need to be taken so that your loved one respects you and does not lead you around like a beautiful doll?
To do this, you need to match it intellectually. Every young man will rejoice, realizing that his woman is admired not only because she has a beautiful figure, but also because of her extraordinary intelligence. Therefore, if you see that you don’t know or understand something, try to figure it out. You shouldn't do everything yourself, because some things are really difficult to understand on your own. Believe me, to a normal person It will be nice to explain to you what you don’t know, but for him this is his hobby. Firstly, this will be another opportunity to feel like a strong and smart man, and, secondly, he will respect you for the fact that you can admit that you are not a know-it-all, but at the same time you are trying to understand and master new areas that have been previously unknown to you.
Many men respect women who understand so-called “male” areas of activity. It could be anything: cars, programming, mountaineering. If you really are an ace in something like this, respect is guaranteed. You just need to show your knowledge in time, but at the same time not overwhelm men with your intellect. An intelligent woman and a feminist who shows with all her appearance that the male sex is much lower than herself are completely different things. Never forget about this and don’t go too far.
Of course, guys are respected not only for their intelligence. There are many more ways in which you can earn a man's respect. For example, young people love strong and wise women. Therefore, you should never throw tantrums in front of guys. This only irritates them and leads to disappointment. No matter how the situation develops, always try to think soberly. It is healthy to reason, give advice, but at the same time do not impose your personal opinion on anyone. Guys love and respect women who do not whine, are not capricious, but try to do everything to the best of their ability, without turning into muslin young ladies.
In addition, it is very important for a man that a woman loves and respects herself. Even if you know that you are not a top model, you should never tell young people about this, complain about your appearance and tell them that no one needs you. Respect will definitely never be achieved this way. First of all, you should know about your strengths and always emphasize them. Men rarely respect beauties who do not shine with intelligence. Of course, they are interested in them, but more as an object for sex than as a life partner. But they are very respectful of girls who know how to emphasize their strengths and hide their shortcomings, while remaining easy to communicate with and confident in themselves.
Yes, it is worth noting that men have always had a favorable attitude towards sociable ladies who do not behave coyly, trying to emphasize their correctness, excessive fragility and impressionability. Many of them need to see in a woman, at least from time to time, a fighting friend who can understand their interests, will not be afraid of difficulties and will not constantly remind them that she is a girl, and therefore everyone is obliged to help her.
Men respect women for being themselves. Always remember that compliments given to your beauty are not always a reason to assume that you are respected. Guys can admire your appearance, but at the same time talk about how low intellectually developed you are, and that there is absolutely nothing to do with you except evaluate your appearance and have sex.
Positive words from guys about your strength of character, intelligence, and understanding can be a reason to believe that you are respected. Men respect those who can truly connect with them common language and delve into their problems. These qualities especially help when you want to make friends with your friends. young man. If a girl is not afraid of “male” topics, knows how to hold a conversation and understand the interests of guys, she is guaranteed respect.
Well, your loved one will respect you if you learn to be calm and balanced, you can give necessary advice, but you will never blindly assert that your opinion is the only correct one, you can really understand him and be interested in his hobbies, and not just pretend that you want to know something about it. Then he will see in you exactly the woman who can be trusted, loved, and, of course, respected.
